Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Social Skills Groups In Raleigh, NC

Dear Parents and Caregivers,

We invite you to join us for our Healing Hearts workshops offered this fall at Horizons Grief Center. These workshops will offer connections with other grieving children, teens, and families, and opportunities for creative expressions and healing on a variety of grief topics. One session is offered specifically for grieving parents and caregivers, and the remaining sessions are offered for grieving children and teens. We invite you to attend all of the workshops below, or only those that are of interest to you. Please see the attached flyer for more information.

Healing Hearts Series at Horizons Grief Center
Monday evenings, Sept 30 through Nov 4
6:15-7:30pm

Mon, Sept 30: How to Help Grieving Children and Teens (parents/caregivers only)
Mon, Oct 7: Using Nature to Express Grief (children & teens only)
Mon, Oct 21: Grief and Anger (children & teens only)
Mon, Nov. 4Staying Connected to My Loved One’s Memory (children & teens only)
Snacks such as fruit, cheese, and crackers will be served at the workshops.
Registration deadline is 1 week prior to each workshop. Please RSVP to: Molly Chaffee, atmchaffee@hospiceofwake.org or 919-719-6734.
 Please let us know if you have any questions about the upcoming workshops. We look forward to seeing you and your children soon.
Warm regards,

Molly Chaffee  and Jennifer Kreimer
Children’s Grief Counselors


Molly Flynn Chaffee, MA, LPC, NCC, RPT
Child and Teen Grief Counselor
Horizons Grief Center, a division of Hospice of Wake County

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Resource for Grieving Children

Dear Parents and Caregivers,

We invite you to join us for our Healing Hearts workshops offered this fall at Horizons Grief Center. These workshops will offer connections with other grieving children, teens, and families, and opportunities for creative expressions and healing on a variety of grief topics. One session is offered specifically for grieving parents and caregivers, and the remaining sessions are offered for grieving children and teens. We invite you to attend all of the workshops below, or only those that are of interest to you. Please see the attached flyer for more information.

Healing Hearts Series at Horizons Grief Center
Monday evenings, Sept 30 through Nov 4
6:15-7:30pm

Mon, Sept 30: How to Help Grieving Children and Teens (parents/caregivers only)
Mon, Oct 7: Using Nature to Express Grief (children & teens only)
Mon, Oct 21: Grief and Anger (children & teens only)
Mon, Nov. 4Staying Connected to My Loved One’s Memory (children & teens only)
Snacks such as fruit, cheese, and crackers will be served at the workshops.
Registration deadline is 1 week prior to each workshop. Please RSVP to: Molly Chaffee, atmchaffee@hospiceofwake.org or 919-719-6734.
 Please let us know if you have any questions about the upcoming workshops. We look forward to seeing you and your children soon.
Warm regards,

Molly Chaffee  and Jennifer Kreimer
Children’s Grief Counselors


Molly Flynn Chaffee, MA, LPC, NCC, RPT
Child and Teen Grief Counselor
Horizons Grief Center, a division of Hospice of Wake County

Sunday, July 28, 2013


3-C Institute for Social Development for Children 7-11 years old
As part of a grant from the U.S. Department of Education, the 3-C Institute for Social Development (3-C ISD) developed a computer-based social skills program called Zoo U for children 7 to 11 years old.

Zoo U is an intelligent social tutoring system (ISTS) developed to help children enhance their social skills.
In order to evaluate the effectiveness of this program, we are looking for approximately 100 children who will be in the 7- to 11-year-old age range during the entire 2013-2014 academic year to interact with and review Zoo U ISTS.

If your child is eligible and you and your child are chosen to participate in the study, you and your child will be asked to:

·         Complete online questionnaires about your child’s social skills.
·         View a 30-minute orientation video during which you and your child will be trained in the use of an online system to access and evaluate the program.
·         Invite your child’s teacher to complete a social skills questionnaire about your child (teachers will have a separate consent process)
·         Interact with and review the computer program over the course of ten weeks. We expect each unit (5 in total) to take approximately 2 hours to play and review. You will receive one unit (6 scenes) every two weeks via e-mail and your child will be given two weeks to complete the assigned unit from the comfort of your own home.
·         Once Zoo U has been completed, you and your child will complete the social skills questionnaires, and then complete them again about a month after that.
·         Finally, approximately two months later, you and your child will complete the social skills questionnaires once more. 

All parts of the project will be completed online; therefore, access to a computer with internet access is required for participation in this study.

Each child and parent who participates will be compensated with Amazon gift codes for their time spent interacting with the program and completing online questionnaires. Total possible compensation once all parts of the project are completed is $120 for the child and $75 for the parent.

If you would like to participate you can complete the online eligibility survey here: Zoo U Eligibility Survey

If you have any questions about the research study, please contact Emily Brown at 919-677-0102 ext.596 or ZooUISTS@3cisd.com


Emily Brown
Research Assistant
3-C Institute for Social Development
1901 North Harrison Ave, Suite 200
Cary, NC 27513
(919) 677-0102 ex. 596
brown@3cisd.com
www.3cisd.com

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Ed Tonick's Still Face Experiment

Dr. Tronick's still-face experiment gives us such insight into the infant's ability to read his/her environment and emphasizes the importance of a secure parent-child relationship.   Be sure to watch the video clip- it is fascinating.

Ed Tronick is a developmental and clinical psychologist. He is a world-class researcher and teacher recognized by his peers for his work on the neurobehavioral and social emotional development of infants and young children, parenting in the U.S. and other cultures, and infant-parent mental health. Simply stated, Ed Tronick’s “still-face” experiment has revolutionized our understanding of children-first relationships and their critical importance to normal social and emotional development. “For me, how individuals make meaning is related to growth and development, creativity and pleasure, as well as to fixedness [failure to change], lifelessness, and suffering,” says Tronick. An infant’s exposure to “good, bad, and ugly” interactions with the mother, as repeatedly communicated by her facial expressions or lack of expression (i.e., a still-face) has long-term consequences for the infant’s confidence and curiosity, or social emotional development, with which to experience and engage the world. The observed, tested, and proven danger of prolonged ugly interactions initiated by the mother—whether due to post-partum depression, drug abuse, child abuse, or neglect—is that over time the infant’s social-emotional development may fail and lead to aberrant neurological pathways. Tragically, the infant may feel helpless and become apathetic, withdrawn, and depressed. Others may become angry, hyper-vigilant, and emotionally brittle.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0

Friday, March 4, 2011

Children's Self Esteem

One indication of a child's level of self-esteem is the number of positive or negative statements they tend to make about themselves or about others. Other indicators include verbal or physical bullying, withdrawal, reluctance to try new things, drawing attention to themselves (ie. bragging), significant defensiveness. Poor self esteem has been related to depression, suicide, drug and alcohol use, poor peer relations, and poor school performance.

Children with high self esteem is related to good social skills, greater independence, peer acceptance, less deviant behavior, and better academic achievement. Parents are instrumental in the development of our children's self esteem. Parents can teach their children to love and accept themselves by placing more emphasis on desirable behavior rather than undesirable behavior; defining rules and limits clearly and consistently; respecting their ideas and feelings; and having reasonable and developmentally appropriate to their developmental level.

In 101 Ways to Boost Your Child's Self-esteem, Price (1982) provides practical ideas as to how parents can help improve their child's self esteem. Although this book was written in the 80's, it is still relevant today. Among the suggestions include simplifying the environment; providing children with multitude of successes each day; helping them to accept their bodies; being empathetic; allowing them to develop problem-solving skills; and teaching children honesty. There are many ways to foster a good self esteem in children and these are just a few. Parents model self esteem for children and when they accept and love themselves they will teach their children how to accept and love themselves.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Is this Normal?

Often parents ask me "Is it normal for my child to..." and sometimes my answer puts them at ease and other times it does not. I came across a chart in a parenting magazine that I have found helpful and thought you may find the information helpful as well. One thing thing that I tell many of the parents I work with to do when they are worried about whether or not something their child is or is not doing is "normal" is to start reading about child development. There are many resources that will give guidance on the web and in books. If you are ever concerned and need to talk to someone there are many skilled therapist in the area that can help meet your needs.

Lying is typical between the ages of 3-6 years old and is problematic when is consistent between these ages or during older ages.

Stealing is typical between the ages of 3-5 years and is problematic when it is excessive or at older ages.

Lack of bowel and bladder control is typical during infancy, toddlerhood, and occasional night time bed-wetting until late elementary. It is problematic during the older elementary school years, when it is excessive, or thought to be "deliberate" during the day.

Temper tantrums is typical between 11 months and 4 years old and is problematic when it is excessive or violent or when the child is older.

Lack of remorse is typical during preschool years, and occasionally at 4-8 years old it is problematic when an older child is not remorseful.


Information found in: Adoptive Families


Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Common Classroom Rewards

Encouraging your child to do well is essential for school success. In order for your child to do his or her best in the classroom he or she must have both internal and external motivators. Sometimes it is easy for your child's teacher to find what helps motivate your child and sometimes it is a difficult task. Teacher's have many demands on them. Brainstorming ideas with your child's teacher on ways to motivate your child maybe helpful to him or her.

Classroom Rewards:
Homework Reduction
Physical Contact (Hugs, Pats)
Playing game with friend
Computer Access
Additional Recess
Free time in class
Class Jobs
Field Trip
Class games
A Certificate/ Play money
Small toys
Breakfast/lunch with teacher
Reading Special Magazine or book
Listen to music on tape recorder
Working with clay or play dough
Special pen or paper
Leading in a game
Being first in line
Show and Tell
Audiotaping a story for the class
Lunch with favorite teacher
Working on art project
Being allowed to clean chalkboards
Going to library
Being able to help in the office